diffculty of self imrpovement

in the initial stage, we have been more or less been intoxicated for about two decades. each mistakes is related to one another and makes you very hard to improve.

therefore improvement is slow and faces many diffculty.

for example, if you want to ask a person "you need to reassess your priorties in life given the depression state you are in."

however for the person what kind of priorities will he give." my priorities are my career , wife and children and parents, so i need to give up my friends "

the problems is this, to answer this question properly on what is the right priorities, you need to correct many many many beleifs first. which for most people they have already mess up many parts of their life. therefore, for them they will not answer the question well. this explains why people who are on the road to self discovery finds that their so called understanding of certain thigns needs to be reunderstand repeatedly becuase they will find that their theories are always have so problems.

they need patient and understand that a life of self discovery and life is fraught with mistakes which is very important actually.

if you avoid improving yourself and reflect, then you will lead a happy and sad life and mostly normal period. although most people will face only a few crisis that does not mean that a non improving life is better because you only face a few crisis , many sad and happy and mostly normal period, while mpt need to spend time reading improvment stuff.

however, without all thiese knowledge, you will make many many mistakes that you will not be even notice. although unnoticed mistakes will not make you cry, but that is precisely the dangerous part, they are wasting your tiem and effort without you even knowing and you are probably spending time listening to what your boyfriend have to say to you about the delicious meal that they have had.

mid life crisis happens to people who have the opportunity that realize that for the past fifty years they have been going with the flow.